Now this is truly for better and for worse
I saw a film many years ago, I can't remember the name of it, but it was about a married man with two kids in a very rural town who worked in a factory, and a very stereotypical manly factory it was. He began to have no other choice, not a minute more, but to reveal his true nature to his wife (Jessica Lang maybe?) - that he was a woman trapped in his male body. He'd always felt female , but his life, other people's expectations and the hardship of going against those expectations of him kept him from revealing himself. As we all know, a small lie becomes a bigger, thicker darker lie, and much harder to unravel. A wife, two kids and a macho job later he began cracking at the seams - he had to reveal herself to his wife, and there was heartbreak, but they stayed married, and together. The scenes when he began to wear make-up and earrings to work were searingly painful to witness. His friends rejected him, made fun of him out of their own weakness' and fear. He still loved his wife, did not want to be with men, but urgently needed to become more of a she than a he, otherwise he couldn't have gone on living. His wife went a bit nuts, fell apart, but soon came back with a strong resolve to support him. Though gut wrenching for them both they stayed together as a couple through the cosmetic phase of him dressing as a woman, to him becoming more of one physically through surgery. They revealed this truth to their kids and remained a family through the children's confusion and eventual acceptance. They stayed together through this, and beyond, as married partners. This article brought back what I felt from this film - of sadness and difficulties rife with love and visa versa. If anyone complains about having a difficult hurdle or hurdles in their marriage, I woud ask them to consider how hard this particular situation must be, and to be in awe of this kind of love.